This is another post about a fun things my wife and I learned about from doing an Adventure Challenge.
This one had us go to a store, we went to Target, and we bought small, nice notebooks. The purpose of the notebook is simple. We each have one that we write in when we feel like it about the other person. Then your spouse can look at it any time they want to to see what you have been writing about them.
We did this many months ago. I was waiting to write about it to see how it would go.
I think it is going pretty good. We both started off writing in them every couple days. They would be little love notes, simply saying thank you for something specific, or commenting on something the other person did that we felt should get mentioned. Now it has dropped off in frequency, but it still holds impact. I find myself writing about once every 10 days or so. It has been a little less often the last 6 weeks due to the craziness of the moving stuff, but we are both still trying to write regularly.
The thing we had to talk about early on was how the other person could tell whether something new had been written in it or not. Should we just pick it up all the time and check? If the other person hadn’t written anything would that cause the other person to be disappointed that nothing new was there? What if something new had been written and the receiving spouse hadn’t picked it up to read it? These were all great questions. So, we decided that we would indicate once we had written something in it by placing the notebook on the other person’s side of the bed. Nice and clear.
We got pacs of stickers too to add to the writings as well. It makes them a little more cheery, and sometimes fun or silly. (we got stickers of silly food with eyes and stuff as one sticker pack).
For someone like me that has trouble communicating at times, forgetting to say things at other times, and saying the wrong things at other times, I like this. It has been fun. I find it easier at times to write what I am thinking rather than say what I am thinking.
Maybe you can give it a try with the person you are close to. It has been fun. I can see it working even with people that don’t live together (for example: dating or engaged).