Making Connections

Being an adult in their 40’s with kids in the house still and 3 part time jobs makes it very hard to make connections with similar people.

I have not been good about making connections with people since shortly after college so there isn’t really anything new here, but at the same time, this sucks sometimes. We have been in Idaho for just over 9 months now, and I don’t really have any friends. There are a couple guys in the Bible study I go to Wednesday night that I enjoy talking with, but I don’t see that becoming anything long term. We don’t really have that much in common from what I have learned over the last 27 weeks of meetings. I have met a few neighbors, but again there isn’t a drive to hang out with them.

My wife has also made these comments recently. She is also struggling to find time to get to know anyone outside of work.

It is true that we have recently changed churches and that meant starting over with trying to make connections. That was our choice, but it was a choice that needed to be made. Since the church we attend doesn’t do any kind of Sunday morning adult small group time there isn’t a way to really get to know people there. Hopefully we will figure out how to join a small group at some point so we can make connections there.

There isn’t anyone at any of my schools for me to “get to know”. I am the same age as many of my student’s parents so there is no connection there happening (These students are like my amazing students like N and D from SCC). And I don’t really see anyone else in my department since I am only around for my classes.

But the point is that is that it is hard to make connections at this stage of life. Thinking back to my parents I think they somewhat struggled with the same thing when they were my age. They were busy with kids and jobs that there just wasn’t time for hanging out with friends. I know they had friends at church, but they never hung out with them. Now they hang out with friends every week, and that is great. I want that now. I want to hang out with similar minded people and play games, go out to dinner as couples, watch movies, talk, or whatever else we may have in common.

I think that the church is going to be the best option to find people at. I just hope that we can find some people that will be able to meet on a night of the week that we have open in the future. That is going to be a hard part. I am sure we will all have kids and therefore that means getting all the schedules figured out.

Making connections is hard as an adult.